Anonymous asked: I'm hoping you could give me some advice. Today i got some really cruel messages from this girl who used to go to my high school and even though i'm 20 years old i cried, like a little baby. It's so lame and embarrassing because she really pulled out some vicious words for slander. I honestly feel so ashamed that I am me and i'm trying to think of some good things in life ahead of me but right now i feel like a failure and that i deserve no one.
don’t sweat it too much. just remember their life sucks, and they’re just trying to pull you down to their level, and that’s why they’re acting out. stay focused on you.
Anonymous asked: hey bro. moving to new york soon. what are your thoughts on best spots to live on a fresh outta school budget? what area did you end up in when you first moved out?
Well, I’m not on a fresh out of college budget, so your price range likely isn’t the same as my price range. I hear upper east side and out Bushwick way are cheap tho.
Anonymous asked: My girlfriend just moved to Seattle, while I figure out my next move, any quick advice for doing long distance?
text, sext, skype, frequent visits, and last but not least her time is not always going to be your time, so don’t fret if she can’t talk when you want to talk.
Anonymous asked: what do you love about Carol?
Anonymous asked: Shallow I know, and I'd never let it effect our relationship... But my girl has a fucked up style sense... How can I tell her to get it together...? Help!
just be upfront with her..
Anonymous asked: switch, what do you think is appropriate age difference...
it varies imo. if someone in their 30s was to get with someone 5…10yrs + it’s not a big deal because you both are mature and have grown and understand what it’s really like to be an adult. now you may be saying, hey, i’m an adult! i just moved out! sure, i live with 5 other people, but i pay my own bills! i mean.. except for, like, you know insurance. i’m still on my parents plan or i don’t really get sick, and i just don’t have an extra $300 a month, ok! i mean my parents give me money for food.. but hey! my cell phone bill! i pay that! the older you get the more you start to understand the different sacrifices/consequences of your actions more, and are more likely to think about what the outcome will be vs jumping right into something simply because it’s new and exciting, which is what often happens when you’re younger. now when you’re younger..say in your early twenties anything more than 5 yrs or 6yrs i really wouldn’t recommend because dealing with the drama that comes with dating the younger 1/2 of the relationship isn’t worth it unless you’re just hooking up or not dating exclusively.
Anonymous asked: what you thinking/feeling about the return of es?
louiexv-deactivated20120518 asked: Explain your current situation to your five-years-ago self.
wow. alrite. i’ll give it a shot…
your name is frank now..it’s a long story. your girlfriend is about to break up with you because of the long distance. it’s ok. & that job you’re working..well, you’re gonna have to work there for another year and some months.. & then you’re gonna get fired. you’re gonna work a couple more jobs after that too. nothing glamorous. kinkos and at&t if you really want the specifics. but you’re never gonna be homeless or starving. don’t worry you won’t fail and have to move back to new orleans either. you are gonna get your heartbroken though. twice. if it helps, the first one is gonna be worse than the second. contrary to how it feels, it won’t kill you. in fact it’s gonna help you write an album. yea, you finally finished an album. people like it man. you’re actually gonna write and record hundreds of songs. they won’t all be good and most ppl won’t think you’re talented at first, but you’re going to master your gifts. you’re going to become a lot stronger and wiser..even a little taller. be patient. i mean, you kind of have no choice. and be good to people. i don’t wanna spoil too much for you, but.. you’re on a plane right now to the east coast to work with kanye west & jay-z. it’s all working out kid. you made it.
Anonymous asked: What's a typical day for you??
wake up…walk/run with kaia…go to the studio or outside to shoot depending on what i have to shoot…come home walk/run with kaia…gym with the lady…sleep.
Anonymous asked: I'm having trouble understanding how discrimination is different then racism. I can see how not all discrimination is racist but isn't all racism discrimination?
Think of it in terms of levels or grades
racism > discrimination > prejudice
and understand that there are different types of racism, you have interpersonal racism, institutional racism, and systemic racism.
but for the sake of this conversation, let’s keep it simple.
Prejudice is when a person holds illogical negative views about a particular subject. This subject could literally be anything.
Discrimination is when a person let’s their personal prejudices manifest by actively acting in detriment towards whatever they’re prejudice against.
Racism is a system of societal wide discrimination created by those who hold society power and privilege.
lotus-kitty asked: Best advice you can give for one who is moving to the beautifully harsh NYC.
Take a cab after 2am. Go up and down the subway stairs quickly and politely. Get some good boots. Don’t have dinner in Little Italy, have it at Rubirosa in Nolita. Walk around Chinatown and go to Tasty Dumpling. Sometimes, skip brunch. Easy on the caffeine and the whiskey. Dress as crazy as you like. If your apartment doesn’t have a deadbolt, tell your landlord you need one. Use Seamless. Buy a (p)leather jacket and black pants. Look cute humans in the eye. Don’t get a dog if you still love going out a lot. If you want to meet somebody, go to all your friend’s birthday parties. Or bring a sense of humor, steely nerves and an OkCupid account. Keep a month’s rent in your savings account if possible. Save money, damnit. Don’t get a credit card maximum you can’t afford. Don’t go to the doctor on a weekend. Learn how to make cheap meals. Try not to become one of those people who talks about how great New York City is all the time. Don’t feel weird if you don’t like NYC that much. Prepare for a very love, very hate relationship. Don’t listen to your headphones so loud you can’t hear somebody approaching you. Visit different boroughs whenever you have the chance. BE SMART.
Get a Netflix account. Don’t worry about staying in some nights. Making friends is hard but possible: be friendly and don’t break lunch plans. Get a library card. Spend an entire day in the Union Square Barnes & Noble. If a manicure is more than 10 dollars, NOPE. Treat yourself to a really, really good restaurant.. I like Perilla. Go to DiFara’s. Go to Spumoni Gardens. Go to a bagel shop anywhere and don’t toast your bagel. Get ready for the subway to enrage you. If you are on the subway, be a good human being and move as far away from the doors as possible. Also, give your seat up for old ladies. Now’s the time to try out red lipstick and a new hairstyle. Keep your Iphone in your pocket. Look for sample sales. If you love an apartment but it’s 20 minutes away from a subway, think about it. If you love an apartment but it’s 200 above your budget, think about it. Call your family sometimes. Sign up for Lifebooker, Scoutmob, and Groupon: get bang for your buck. Find a friend with a car and take day trips out of the city. Bring hand sanitizer. Take cash out. Don’t take cash out at random ATM if your bank is close by. Go to bed early sometimes. Take long walks. Crowded bars are probably not worth it. Ooze confidence. Keep your wits. Don’t be so romantic. Don’t be so cynical. Be nice. SAVE MONEY.
Learn to push a bit. Learn to cry in public. Learn to be lonely. Learn to get used to awe. Learn to love the little things. Learn to get knocked down. Learn to get up.
Hold onto yer butt. Expect anything.
Anonymous asked: Ever get to that point in life where everything just went wrong and you just about lose everything you have? then think fuck it do i just give up altogether? Make or Break?
Yes. I had that exact moment almost 2 years ago. I was working a “good” studio job. I had a salary check and benefits. I also had a commute that killed me everyday and realized I was working for something that didn’t make me happy. I had a falling out with my boss and got fired. At that point I was done stressing and worrying. I realized photography made me happy. I was months behind on my mortgage,my bills,etc. and I was done killing my body with worries. I realized nothing is forever. So with not being married or having kids I realized if I wanted to go for it now was the time. I didn’t want to run out and get another job just because it is what you are supposed to do. When people would call looking for money to collect for bills rather then stress I would just tell them I don’t have anything right now but when I do you guys will get paid.I felt a lot like that guy from Office Space… I just stopped caring about that shit. I took it upon myself to hustle and follow what I love. It was definitely a gamble and I threw everything into the wind but fuck that is what makes being human exciting. If every moment in your lifetime was guaranteed or a sure thing…how boring would that be? I say to anyone in a make or break situation in life…. go for it. If you don’t have big pending responsibilities like a family to support then do it while you can because nothing is forever.
Anonymous asked: So my boyfriend (of six months) has started following several 'hot girl' Instagram accounts. I brought it up once and said it made me feel inadequate etc. He unfollowed all the real slutty ones but just keeps following more. Should I bring the topic up again?
I mean yeah you could bring it up, but to be honest this is really an insecurity issue that you need to work out.
Anonymous asked: this is my first year in college. its been really tough. im not a social person at all. i do best with the people im comfortable around. it seems like each time im put in a social situation, i hesitate. its like i have a time frame to give this stranger the best impression of myself. most of the time it ends in me being awkward. i hate the feeling and now i find that im just ignoring social situations in general out of fear. isn't college supposed to be the best four years of your life?
unfortunately just because you’re in college doesn’t necessarily mean you’re going to do a 180 right away. it’s going to take time for it to happen, but you will eventually come out of your shell.
Anonymous asked: I noticed you always cite photographers and fashion models but when you post skaters, you never cite them. We don't get shouts out?
I do my best to cite any and all posts. If you know a source not labeled feel free to leave it in my inbox, and I will fix the post accordingly.