Anonymous said: Are you gon make it to the childish badu show at the Greek? That shit gonna be for real!!! Hope to see you

likely not.  maybe if he does something in los angeles while i’m there.  otherwise not until he has something going on over here in new york.

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chantalrusso said: so i saw you the other day, and was wondering if you ever get people coming up to you saying they follow you on tumblr/how you'd react

yeah, since the blogspot dayzzzz.  it’s no biggie.  same type of reaction as with a friend you haven’t seen in a while except i don’t know you.  the lady and i were at the skingraft after party the other night and the bartender hooked us up with free drinks because he recognized us from the blog.  that was chill.

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janpianomusic:

chescaleigh:

It’s sad when someone dies. But forgive me if I don’t wax poetic over someone who was racist, transphobic and regularly sex shamed and body shamed women just cause they were famous and occasionally said funny stuff.

I’m sad that you, who are such an advocate for learning before speaking, haven’t taken anything away from her documentary, serious interviews or what other people said about her. Laverne Cox (black -“racist”, transgender - “transphobic”) said she was very kind to her backstage at Fashion Police. Many other celebrities have posted similar things.

Yes, she said horrible things about Adele, the Kardashians, Elizabeth Taylor, and many others, but I think she did that to have people go “I don’t want to be like that! Do I say those things?”.

Now you can say that I’m naive, too optimistic or apologetic, I had simply hoped that you, who has done stand-up comedy, had at least posted “RIP Joan Rivers” because she was a pioneer in the stand-up comedy business. I’m not asking you to kneel by her picture or weep by her grave, just to acknowledge what she accomplished.

I actually saw "A Piece Of Work" and really loved it. There’s no denying Joan Rivers was a pioneer for female comedians and it’s great that she was nice to Laverne Cox, but she most definitely called Michelle Obama a tr***y, called President Obama gay, made fun of Rihanna after she was abused by Chris Brown, made jokes about Whitney Houston’s drug addiction and death, said Palestinians were stupid and deserved to die and called 6 month old North West ugly. And that’s just a handful of things she said that didn’t sit right with me. She didn’t say those things to teach a lesson. She said them in an attempt to be funny. 

People who’ve accomplished great things can do a bunch of shitty things too. Like I said, it’s said when someone dies, but that doesn’t erase the shitty things she said or did. I’m not negating the impact Joan Rivers had on the world of comedy nor am I happy that she passed away, but no I’m not going to pretend she was a saint. You are welcome to be saddened by Joan’s death but please don’t be sad that I’m not responding in a way that you believe I should.

Yes, I did stand-up for awhile, and I stopped largely because I wasn’t comfortable with the garbage that was passed off in the name of “comedy”. The way I see it, if she truly wanted to encourage people not to say awful problematic things, her comedy should’ve commented on them instead of just regurgitating those awful things. Comedy punches up, not down. And while Joan had a long and successful career, a large portion of it was built on punching down. 

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Anonymous said: how is saying you're not like those black people an issue? Not trying to be offensive or ignorance, just genuine curiosity. I use the phrase often and am looking to be educated so that if it's an issue, I can stop :)

blackwomenconfessions:

Because usually it comes from a place of “Im better than them”, “Im not like those ignorant black people” or “Im not one of those stereotypical black people”. It’s usually said by someone trying to distance themselves from blackness or stereotypical black things.

I don’t see any good reason why you should be pointing out that you are not like other black people. Have you ever seen a white person do that? No. Because they are given the humanity of being seen as diverse. They are all allowed to be seen as unique individuals with their own identities. If someone sees Black people as a monolith then that’s there problem, but dont further that harmful ideology by adding on to it that you’re a special snowflake different from millions of other Black people. The fact that you have a different identity should be a given. You don’t need to explain that.

Admin Dee

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Anonymous said: Would you recommend a friends with benefits situation for 2 career-oriented people who are too busy for a relationship?

southerndecay:

Of course I would, if both of you are emotionally stable enough to take on such a relationship. Friends with benefits is a relationship, and for it to work, you actually have to be friends. But if you’re too busy to  be friends with someone you might be fucking, it might be a better idea to invest in a good sex toy or two instead of using someone else’s body as a masturbatory aid.  

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chinuee said: i go to Columbia with the girl carrying around her mattress to represent her rape. when she came out with her story to CNN/the Times, our main school newspaper identified her rapist by name. since then, he completely dropped off facebook and twitter. every time you google his name, the first 10 entries relate to her rape. i just saw him today on campus so at least everyone knows who he is and what he has done

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Anonymous said: why do black people use you in the wrong context? such is "you ugly" instead of "you're ugly" I know u guys can differentiate, it's a nuisance

rsbenedict:

prettyboyshyflizzy:

you a bitch

It’s called copula deletion, or zero copula. Many languages and dialects, including Ancient Greek and Russian, delete the copula (the verb to be) when the context is obvious.

So an utterance like “you a bitch” in AAVE is not an example of a misused you, but an example of a sentence that deletes the copular verb (are), which is a perfectly valid thing to do in that dialect, just as deleting an /r/ after a vowel is a perfectly valid thing to do in an upper-class British dialect.

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Anonymous said: Why are you so angry about JLaw's nudes being leaked? I thought you didn't like her.

deebott:

tstarksbitch:

  • i am angry because this is just another example of women being shamed for taking nudes instead of the douchebag who spreads them being shamed for violating someone’s privacy like that
  • i am angry because nobody deserves this, regardless of how i feel about their personality
  • i am angry because this is pure misogyny and shows how women aren’t respected in our culture
  • i am angry because she did not consent to having those pics posted everywhere but they still were
  • i am angry because on the VERY RARE occasion this happens to a male celeb he is not shamed but rather the perpetrator is and it’s forgotten quickly whereas this will haunt jennifer for years and years to come
  • i am angry because this was a sex crime and people are treating it like a joke
  • i am angry because she is being exploited/objectified and some gross dudebros are probably jacking off to those pics 
  • i am angry because people are CONGRATULATING the fucker who did such an atrocious thing to her instead of being appalled 

listen i may not like her personally but the fact remains that as a human being she is entitled to body autonomy and to choose who sees her naked body and who doesn’t 

Exactly I may not fuck with her but I fuck with basic human rights and the conservation of privacy. She nor does anyone deserve to have their rights violated in such a heinous manner. 

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Anonymous said: how do you rationally explain to someone that saying 'i would never date someone of __ race. i just don't find them attractive' is racist? i have a heard time logically explaining it and i get angry at myself

internetexplorers:

tell them that it’s racist to write off an entire race because a race consists of millions of diverse individuals with depth and emotion like.. if the only thing stopping you from dating someone is the colour of their skin, that’s cheap and gross; it’s reducing someone to solely their race which is racist. ask them to think hard about why they don’t find that certain race attractive. we’ve been brainwashed into thinking white European features are the epitome of beauty, and that’s been drilled into us since the day we were born. we see that everywhere from Disney movies to beauty magazines to everything mainstream media feeds us. and before they can argue that “it’s only a preference!” it’s not. a preference is like preferring blond hair to dark hair or brown eyes to green eyes. you wouldn’t look at a person with brown hair and be like “ohh I can’t date that person they’re brunette!” and write them off but there are people who would look at a person of colour and immediately dismiss them and not give them a second thought BECAUSE of the colour of their skin and that. is. racist.

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unadornd said: Hey there! I'm just scrolling through your feed and it's fab, but may I ask what Afro Punk is exactly? I'm from Australia so I have no idea but your photos are predominantly of black guys and girls, is it a race-specific thing or are they just your favourite subjects to shoot? Looks so cool and my gosh the style is so rad 👌

AFROPUNK is an influential community of young, gifted people of all backgrounds who speak through music, art, film, comedy, fashion and more. Originating with the 2003 documentary that highlighted a Black presence in the American punk scene, it is a platform for the alternative and experimental.

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Anonymous said: When I don't get the "sex workers aren't selling their bodies" thing. Isn't that kinda what you're doing?

stripperina:

I’m not “selling my body” any more than a masseuse, or a construction worker, or a physical trainer, or a circus performer.  On stage, I perform dance and pole tricks in exchange for tips.  In lapdances, I provide people with a fantasy of intimacy.  I use my body for work, just like any other physical laborer.  Just because my form of labor involves nudity and sexuality doesn’t mean I’m selling any part of myself.  My body never exchanges owners at work.  It is always mine. 

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4phex said: Did you hear about Kajieme Powell ... is this real? I can't believe that is really happend ... sorry for this stupid message I'm just shocked right now and I think this is a way for me to cope with it in this moment

I did.  Very sad situation indeed.  A lot of people have to start realizing though is a lot of the stuff going on has always gone on.  Only difference is that now practically everyone has social media, and they’re finally starting to use it for important shit instead of just stupid shit.  And the best part is is that we’re ahead of the gov. on this.  When the internet started they didn’t realize what it’s true potental really was and how open it is.  Something they can’t fully control, so they’ve been scrambling to do so.  The more and more we expose this stuff the sooner they will have to start implementing changes in the way the police proceed thus the beginning of our generations version of a civil rights movement for various areas (gay rights, weed, etc.)

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alwaysnevernotgivingafuck said: I agree that it's never okay for white people to say nigga. But I think it's unfair to jump on Taylor's video. She's not the first white person to appropriate b-boy culture or twerking, to this end I don't believe as black people we have any claim to it's use except perhaps authenticity. Second, I don't assume that the majority of people harbour overt racial prejudice and are just 'hiding it'. We all harbour subconscious stereotypes about race and I don't believe Taylor meant any harm.

Taylor isn’t the first to have this subject brought up about, so no one is jumping on her they’re making an observation and bringing light to something that is apparent in the industry.  The point I believe that is being expressed is that while people like her want to embrace that culture when times are good, but when we have situations such as the Michael Brown incident happening their voice is silent.  I also don’t assume that the majority of people are harboring some sort of racial prejudice, so yeah, cool story. 

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Anonymous said: When you were looking into clubs to work at, what did you look for? And what kinds of questions did you ask at your audition? I'm considering becoming a dancer but I don't know what to look for!

stripperina:

Good question.  When looking at whether or not a club would be good to work at, I’d say, go in and ask the dancers how much they like it there.  See how many bouncers are there and how active they seem.  See if the dancers seem happy and engaged or not.  See how clean the facilities are and how safe the building seems.  In an audition, ask what the rules of the club are, both for dancers and for customers.  Ask about the stage fees and how many staff members you tip out at the end of the night, and what the minimum tipouts are.  Ask how much lapdances costs, and if you have to give the club a percentage of your lapdance earnings or not.  Ask if they enforce a tipping minimum at the stage.  That’s all I can think of for now.  Good luck!

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Anonymous said: What did u expect the states to be like when you moved, and how did your opinion change from what you first thought it was

sirui:

before- honestly i thought it was gonna be one of those high school movies with a lot of fun white ppl

after- i hate white ppl

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