Anonymous asked: My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years now, he has smoked weed since we started dating and at first I had no problem with it until he dropped out of college and quit his job. 8 months later he is still just smoking daily instead of keeping up with his responsibilities. He agreed that he was in for a serious change including no more weed, but yesterday I found a ton in his car and then he lied to me about it. I am hurt but I love him dearly, I am dumbfounded on what I should do.
break up with him. accept him for who he is or not at all. he obviously isn’t ready or doesn’t want to change his life style, so you should just move on. you’ll be happier in the end.
mydoseofdopenessss asked: Well switch, explain your current situation to your five years ago self. Haha
Lets see..it’s March 2008…you just moved back to the Bay Area after being in Los Angeles for a little over a year. You and Slims are back together again for the millionth time. You moved back to be with her because this time it’s going to work. Three weeks later she breaks up with you again. You dig yourself into your work. You pick up a couple jobs shooting at parties. You pick up a couple of jobs shooting for Vapors magazine. Vapors never pays you. You really miss LA. You’ll go down a lot for visits/work. In August you’ll go to Magic with The Hundreds and you’ll meet Anna. We’ll get to that later. Obey will also offer you a job, and you’ll move back to LA. You move in with Taylor and the girls in the big red house. The big red house is awesome. December you start dating Anna. You don’t really hang with the homies as much. You go to Coachella with them though and it’s bad. You stop smoking/drinking. You don’t hang with the homies as much anymore. You’ll move out of the big red house and in with Anna. You’ve got a nice house in Echo Park. You get Kaia. You stop partying and become super domestic. June you’ll quit Obey and work with The Hundreds full time again. Life’s good. Work’s good. Everything’s good. January you go to the Bay for work trip. You smoke for the first time since 4/19. Shooting and vacaying a lot with Anna. Start using Tumblr more instead of Blogspot because it’s easier and less time consuming. You start working a lot more. Less vacays and shooting on your own. Fighting with Anna a lot. You guys decide to call it quits. You and Kaia move into a nice studio apt. across the street from the Scientology church/college. The majority of your neighbors are Scientologist. It’s a little weird, but awesome. You LOOOVE living here. You hang with your friends again. New Years is awwwwwesome. Your bday is awwwwesome. The whole summer is ammmmmmazing. You do a collab with Diamond. It sells out in 2 days. You’re juiced. You meet Soph around Halloween. Some time around here you also become friends with Donald. He invites you to a couple shows, which are dope. Work is super busy/stressful. Stix comes to visit. Stix and you will move in together, so you can start saving for your big move. You know the bucket list. You and Stix get a coo spot up the street from your apt. Living with Stix is dope. You’re hanging with your friends again shooting on your own more too. You meet Carol. Carol is dope. Carol comes for a visit during her spring break, and it’s dope. You and Alex start doing White Guy/Black Guy. It’s going well. You put it on the back burner for a bit because your guys work schedule conflict. Don’t worry though. You guys are still going to get it in motion again. While working at a shoot you hurt your back. You hurt your back reallllllly bad. So bad you can barley move for weeks. No one checks on you. Well, I guess I shouldn’t say that. A few people do, but the ones you thought would don’t, and you cut them off. You go to Coachella. It’s not that great because your back kills all day. Still a good time though. You come back from Coachella and Ben recommends a spot for your back. Two weeks later you’re as good as new. Around May you start going on tour with your buddy to shoot photos for Street League. This is really fun. You travel around the country. June comes and you’re 30! :( You go to New York to visit JP and Carol. A week after you come back you start dating Carol. Summer is fun. You’re traveling all over for Street League. Everything is great, but you’re not getting paid on time. This fucks up your relationship with your homie. You cut him off. You and Carol are doing the long distance thing. It’s working because you visit/she visits once a month and you two talk frequently. You get offered a job in New York. November you move to New York. You and Carol move in together. It’s going well. It’s freezing cold every day though, and you start to rethink this move. Thanksgiving isn’t so good. You fall skating and hurt your wrist for over 2months. New Years is dope. Cold, but fun. Work is whateves, but you’re freelancing a lot, and that’s dope. You make another shirt. It sells out. You make a few more and some other stuff, and they move well too. Carol gets a dope internship, finishes school, then gets a dope job. Freelance is getting better. Good enough that you’ll leave the job you came for. Life is good right now. Good job. There’s more I left out, but you get the idea.
Anonymous asked: You ever feel like you don't fit in?
I spent 1/2 my childhood in a predominately white suburban varsity blues like town where I was the only black skateboarder, and sometimes the only black person in the class. All my friends played sports growing up while I skated. Even some of the skaters didn’t like me because blacks weren’t suppose to do that. I wasn’t black enough for the black kids and obviously not white enough for the whites. I don’t know what fitting in is. I’ve always just done what I like.
paulseagull asked: Ages 26-30, what are they all about? (Recently turned 25).
start pulling your shit together. dem good looks won’t last forever. unless you’re pharrell.
Anonymous asked: Any advice to forgiveness?
depends on the situation. holding grudges is lame as fuck though.
Anonymous asked: When I was 21 I was passionately in love with my boyfriend but we had such an upsetting and raucous relationship that I eventually moved to a different city for some peace. Now 10 years later we've crossed paths and discovered the passion is still there. I'm afraid that if we hook up we will start fighting again. However I'm tempted to try it again. Do you think people can mature and become more compatible?
yeah, people def. can mature. when you’re in your 20s that’s the time you should be dating and figuring out who you are. if you’re smart you learn to control your temper, and how to approach situations/confrontations differently than you would when you were younger.
Anonymous asked: Help? Plz. Hey! :) I have a boyfriend, going on year 3 now, of being together. Before I committed to my bf I was kinda trying to see guy2 nd we've always just been friends and only hung out a few times. Issue with G2, he doesn't have a job/Issue with my bf now, we've never had the connect m and g2 have [this is stupid i realize half way but must commit] This guy who is my friend is literally the guy of my dreams and the guy I'm with now is the reasonable choice. Seems possibilities are endless!
If you’re not into your relationship anymore then you need to breakup. bottom line.
Anonymous asked: what kind of cameras and lenses do you shoot with?
mark 5d and a 50mm or stock.
iphone.
Anonymous asked: When you wear button ups, how many buttons do you usually leave undone?
all except the top 3 usually.
Anonymous asked: yo, I want to start a blog about my travels and shit I like. For month I have been getting photos from blogs and on the internet in general. The thing is, I don't remember where I got them from specifically. Is it bad blog etiquette to post a photo and not give credit. I don't want to pass them off as my own or anything, they are just photos I dig.
you could always save the file with the name instead of the random letters/numbers that appear when you save them to your desktop. imo yes, it is bad etiquette to post without giving credit, and i am guilty of that as with the majority of tumblr. at first i didn’t because i felt that if you really were interested in finding out about a subject you’d ask or actually look it up, but then i noticed people weren’t doing that, so as of recent i’ve been trying to be more cautious effort with sourcing photos.
Anonymous asked: I'm a big girl. I love smoking pot and creating art. I'm free spirited. Lately I've been wanting a boyfriend. But when I see other relationship I get reminded of why I like being single. I love doing what I want. But I'm also getting pretty lonely. And I'm tired of hitting up booty calls. What should I do?
start dating. find someone that fits what you’re looking for. don’t settle. have sex. smoke blunts. create art. be happy.
Anonymous asked: hey switch. how do i know that breaking up with my girl is the right thing? I have mad mixed emotions. any advice?
Anonymous asked: I moved to Chicago for a job after college. My girlfriend of 4+ yrs followed. We've lived together for a little under a year. I love her, but I can't help but feel liberated by a sense of individualism every time I'm on my own for a spell. I'm devastated at the thought of breaking it off after she made a move (with few friends here, to boot), but I don't want to waste my young-20s freedom. It's not about meeting others - it's about learning about who I am as my own entity, own my own. Thoughts?
you need to break up with her if you don’t want to be with her. don’t waste each others time.